I’ve been to 3 weddings in the last year. The first Liam and Deanna Paul, the second Nathan and Ashlyn Clarricoats and the 3rd, Isham and Mira Khan.
The most prudent issue about this is that all 3 of them met online. Now some people frown on online relationships and look at people who do this as socially inept.
The truth is that online relationships work because people do their homework before they decide on whom to talk to. They have a good idea of what they want and what they are looking for and so exclude those that might not fit their ideal criteria.
I have always felt that you will be very lucky in life if you find someone with whom you are 80% compatible. Mostly you are going to find someone who will be about 50 to 60% compatible. The thing is that you need to accept that you are going to have differences and then not try to change those things in them but accept those differences and cherish those differences and adopt them into your lives if you can. It won’t happen overnight and won’t be easy for everyone, but if you can do this, then happy ever after is on the cards for you.
Which brings me to my next point about love. Many people have said that ” real love is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person.”
Yes this might be true. The truth is when you find someone with whom you are compatible with, you can choose to let yourself fall in love with them or choose not to.
The fact is that when the honeymoon period ends, you will find that you are with someone who has just as many quirks and insecurities, and other issues as you have. And they will learn that you are likely to have just as many issues as they have.
Its when these issues occur that you have a choice. The love choice. You can choose to love them despite their faults or you will grow to despise their faults.
The choice is really yours. Its a deliberate choice. its a choice to love each other for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness or in health, until death do you part.
Some people simply jump overboard everytime difficulties are encountered. They will spend their lives looking for that absolutely perfect partner and very very rarely they will find that but more often than not, they will settle for less and will forever regret what they had let slip through their fingers.
So loving somebody, really is a choice. Once you choose to love someone despite their faults, weaknesses and other issues, longevity is more likely to be the outcome.
If you truly love someone and they truly love you you have to realise that keeping it going is never going to be easy, you have to want it, have to need it and have to plan on working towards it.